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“I’m actually not drinking.”
No long story needed. Just the truth.
Straight:
“I’m actually not drinking.”
That’s it. It’s calm, clear, and leaves no room for guessing.
If they ask why, you can decide whether to say more. But you don’t have to.
In other ways:
“I’m good for now”
“I’m taking a proper break.”
“I’m off it for now.”
“I feel better without it.”
When you need to shut it down:
“I’m good, thanks.”
(Repeat as needed.)
When someone offers you a drink, it can feel like you owe them an explanation. You don’t. But if you want a line that says what you mean — without making it weird — here’s one that works.
You don’t have to soften the message or make it more palatable. Your choice is valid — full stop.
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You’re not alone
“My main strategy is being upfront and saying, ‘I’m not drinking tonight.’”
Shikha, Bruce
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